Thursday, August 2, 2012

Sadness In Our Town

[Posted By Jake]

Tonight we bury a neighborhood son.
Eddie was a kid we all loved. He had a smile that could brighten your day and manners that never failed to impress. He was the oldest of a gang of six. Sometimes it seemed like he was the surrogate parent to his brothers and sister, and by extension, half the kids in the neighborhood. Funny thing was, he was fine with it. Big brother was a responsibility he accepted with pride and carried out with grace.

His family is one that we admire. In a busy world, they are committed to each other and to doing things right. Home improvements on Saturday, church on Sunday, doing their part with volunteer activities all week long. Whether it is family dinners, Communion or graduation celebrations, or just making time for friends on a warm summer evening, they are the good people and parents we all would like to be. 

Tonight we bury a neighborhood son.
This sadness has affected us all week. We try, with mixed success, to replace the hurt with good thoughts. I reminisced with Eddie's Rose Tree Colts football coach. He remembered a kid who never missed a practice; a family that never failed to thank him for his service. Sports and games were a constant, only interrupted by fishing season. Eddie was very good at the former and an expert at the latter. Sometimes it seemed like he'd spend more time setting up everybody else's lines than actually fishing himself. As parents, we'd normally worry about our young son around roads and streams and whatever strangers were hanging around Chester Creek. But not when Eddie was there. We knew our son was in good hands.

And now we're left with the prayer that Eddie is in good hands. The viewing is going to be long and difficult. The funeral mass will overflow the church tomorrow. I expect the procession to St. Peter and Paul to tie up the roads pretty well in the county during midday. It's funny, when you are an older person, the number of cars in your procession speak to the fullness of your life. For a young man of 24, it is simply a measure of the pain we never planned to suffer.

Tonight we bury a neighborhood son.
Drugs are an insidious blight on our community. To take a kid like Eddie from us, from his loving family, from his bright future and all the good he was destined to achieve, is a tragedy beyond understanding. Our hearts ache for the family's loss and for our own. Much to our son's chagrin, we've fussed over him a little bit more this week. Probably all the kids in the neighborhood got a little extra attention these last few days. It's hard to accept that being a parent can hang in such fragile balance. Eddie, we miss you and love you, and hope that you have found the peace and joy with God that you so wonderfully shared with us.

(Editor's note: Some people have wondered whether the author of this post is my son, Jake Spencer. It is not. It is the post de plume of Dean Helm, a Middletown resident, who has posting privileges here. He did a nice job on this one.)


Anonymous Crista Brockway said...

Brilliantly written. All too close to home. My older brother's name is Eddie and much of this description rings memories through my head. Thankfully drugs didn't take his life. God Bless Eddie's family and ease them to know Heaven is for Real.

August 2, 2012 at 7:48 AM 
Blogger Bob Bohne said...

Jake - Sorry for your loss.

August 2, 2012 at 8:22 AM 
Blogger Dannytheman said...

Beautiful, jake. I'm hugging my 4 sons a little tighter! My sincere condolences.

August 2, 2012 at 11:02 AM 
Anonymous Darlene said...

Jake, I don't always agree with your thoughts BUT today I applaud you and your words. You combined so so many feelings we, as parents feel for Lucy and Ed.
You described Eddie completely as well as his family. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, we will all continue to pray for the entire Klodarska family through the next minutes,hours,days,weeks and months.

August 2, 2012 at 12:19 PM 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Spot on and beautiful. Thank you.

August 2, 2012 at 1:47 PM 
Blogger cindy m. said...

very well said.Thank you for verbalizing what we (the parents)are feeling. All our love to the Klodarska family.

August 2, 2012 at 4:06 PM 
Blogger MKirchgasser said...

Gil: Thanks for so eloquently capturing the pain that Middletown and Media area are feeling. There is no better family, there was no greater kid. Stop to say a prayer for the Klodarska's tomorrow....

August 2, 2012 at 11:38 PM 
Blogger CharlieSix said...

Tears streaming down my cheeks with sincere appreciation for the truly exceptional tribute to Eddie... Many thanks for allowing those of us who care for you to share...

August 2, 2012 at 11:55 PM 
Blogger Anne Marie said...

I never got the chance to meet Eddie, but I do know Ed and Lucy. What a beautiful tribute to him and their family. Much love and prayers to the Klodarska's.

August 3, 2012 at 8:16 AM 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Beautifully written, job well done Jake.

August 3, 2012 at 8:34 AM 
Anonymous Marie Lewis said...

Such a sad day for the Klodarska Family. My thoughts, and prayers be with them. This story of Eddie was so touching and very thoughtful. We as parents should never have to say goodbye to our children this way. Every parent please hug your child and always tell them how much that they are loved !!!!!! Eddie may you find comfort and rest up above<3

August 3, 2012 at 11:54 AM 
Anonymous VCarlson said...

Eddie was a great kid and our family will continue to remember him and share our memories of times spent with him and the Klodarskas as our boys grew up together. Our hearts are broken....

August 5, 2012 at 8:31 AM 
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